Sunday, November 22, 2015

Guilt trips and fear mongering

They are the same thing.
Neither gets the person to the next step
of offering a helping hand.

Thursday, November 19, 2015


In the last five days there has been a screaming match over
taking refugees in from Syria
or from the Middle East in general.

The US has long lived a refugee crisis
Europe is just now experiencing what we have
chosen not to deal with for the last fifty years.
We have refugees,
millions of them,
Would we be better served to actually deal with our own refugees?
Could we not process
and gently resettle
those who come to our souther border
or in airplanes?

Could we not take our refugee monies
and help them get settled
and give them "an identity"
and an education?

Could we stop calling them aliens?
Illegal aliens?
Could we teach them the courtesies of our county
and the language?
Give them money to settle and a place to lay their head?

Some would argue that they do not flee from war.
As a person who has fled from civil unrest
gunfire or lack of a job to care for a family
feels like war on a different level.

Quit complaining and begin to take care
of the refugees we have.
We could take in some more-
but let's care for those we already have.
Maybe it is time for Europe take in the people
they colonized
and stole from for the last 400 years.

Sunday, November 08, 2015

Who/What shaped you?

As an educator
my feeling is that people are formed
both by nature and nurture.

Our nature is looking far more complicated then we previously felt.
If our mothers carry the cells of her mother
and all of our older sibs
besides hers and our father's when we are conceived,
then our nurture could go back many generations.
Although we are mostly "named" by the father's family,
We truly are more a part of our mother's.

Another part of nurture is the engagement of the brain in learning.
We are learning that our brain turns off main control
in certain areas
 around the age of seven and
moves learning to another center.
That "transfer" seems to be when a child learns to read.

Biblically, we find the passage PS 22:6
"Train them up the way they should go
and they will not depart from it."
We know that people depart all the time,
but do they?
Self esteem seems to be rather set by the age of seven.
Seven is considered the age of reason.
Maybe those early influences set us on "our path"?
Does it change when there are outside unexpected influences?

A new study has been researching children who had
traumatic things happen to them before the age of seven.
They concluded that those happenings can result in a lifelong
depressive state.
Could it be that the center that learning occurs in early on
holds our newly formed emotions?
One could conclude it would be very difficult to
change those feelings since that part of the brain
is no longer used for new learning.

There is another study that states that if a child
in the primary grades
has two bad years in a row
that child will always struggle with school.
Could one then conclude
that two bad years can take down self esteem
and depression can be set in?

I do know that many "good" friends are made in very certain times in our lives.
Primary grades- when learning is new.
Around thirteen, when learning moves to a different level
and then transition periods (marriage, children, deaths of loved ones, new job/business).
It doesn't seem the brain is studied much at this point.
Maybe there is learning in a new section since all the learning before,
has little to do with that moment?
There are not many times as adults these periods come
and the friends we make at these times are important in influence.

I know I am rambling
but suddenly the stages of shaping seem so important to me.

What do you think?
Too heady for this time of the year?

Maybe I just need more time at the shore?

Monday, November 02, 2015

All Souls

All souls day is an important day for me.
Traditionally, my family never really did anything for this day.
As I grew into my teens I felt need to pray for my father's mother
and then my mother's father,
Neither whom I had  met.

My Dad's mom died in a fire with her mother
when my father was 18 months old.
May 1929.
 My mother's father passed away from a stroke in December 1945
I still pray for their souls,
but more often I pray that they watch over
my children's souls.

The superstition is that when the person "makes it to God"
they no longer need our prayers.
The need to pray for these two has dissipated over the years.
Instead people of my past- Father Tom, my Dad,
my Grandparents I did know and
my Godparents come to mind.

There is great comfort in my religion that there is a continuity of souls.
Some agree and others do not
but believing that those who lived before us are still within us is now
becoming science.

They are now even seeing how generations before leave cells along the way.
Meeting of heaven and earth.

Wednesday, October 28, 2015

Busy month!

My drive back and forth to see the grands provide lovely scenes. 
This is one of the farms I pass.
It is a lovely Maryland farm.
I had no idea that there were these.

One of my trips ended at the aquarium with a group of boys.
I learned about sharks, conches and Skylanders!
 Later in the month my daughter's family and I traveled to Phoenix to see my mom and family.
One of my deeds this trip was to help my mom divide my Nana's charm bracelet.
This is the name and date of me and every one of my cousins.

 After we were done we visited the graveyard where many of my family are laid.
We found Dad, Nana and my grandfather, My dad's father and step mom, my aunt and uncle and last we went to find my Nana's parents. Here is her mother.
 Here are the father and the step mother who raised my Nana in Phoenix.

Loading up the mini van my daughter's family and I went to the land of my college and her high school years.  First stopping in Sedona for a shot of the redrocks. Missing the redrocks is one thing, missing the sycamore trees in Oak Creek is very different.  Sorry, I cannot take a picture of those scents!
 Flagstaff.  The leaves were changing, the skies were wonderful, we had a rain, saw my sister and enjoyed our old city.

One of the days we loaded up again and headed to the Grand Canyon.

It was a glorious day.
They headed home and my flight left for 46 hours in Vegas with my sister in law.

Coming back to fall. The festival in my town continues

And the leaves are changing.

Last weekend my bff from 1975 moved out of her house in Coatesville PA. She and her husband are doing the ultimate and moving in with their daughter, son in law and new grandbaby. God bless them. If you want an amazing house in PA, this is the one!
Yesterday I sold my car. 122,000 miles and nine years, it is tired. My new car sits in the driveway waiting for another trip to see the grands. My husband asked me to stay home at least one day!

Sunday, October 11, 2015

The best time of the year

No contest, Fall is my favorite season.

Thursday, October 01, 2015

The tale of three

Three grandchildren
as different as the night and day and other day

Two started speaking before they were born
not really
but it seems like it

The third prefers not to say a word
except "Hello"
How many ways can one child say hello?
We are destined to find out.

All three bright as the sun.
Two climbers
Two talkers
Two will include you in on anything
Two singers
Two dancers
One amazing puzzle master
All different attributes
but so much the same.

Have you learned how to can?

The present for my birthday this year
is a pressure cooker.

Although my birthday was last week
my research for the perfect cooker has just begun.

Living so close to a farm store
next year my intension is to can everything as it becomes ripe.
My prepping continues!

Pressure cookers, like everything else in the US, has lots of options.
Choice one

wowza! Do you think I am ready for this thing?
Bells and whistles galore.
Choice two:
Lots less expensive
Lots more guessing
Those who know me will never try anything I can in this one.

Really this is what is desired
Of course this pressure cooker is not made for canning
Why? Oh Why?
It would be SO much easier!

Off to research!

Closing a house

A good friend's husband worked at a plant that laid off 90% of their workers
and so
I went to a her state
and began to help her close her house.

As an Army family
we learned to let go and just move.
This week marked a time in which I am beginning to understand
what a stressful thing it is to move.

What a week it was:
Facebook discussion with an African American
who informed me that he couldn't be racist
against Ben Carson because
he was black.

Blood moon viewing with my grandson
after birthday cake celebrating our birthdays.

News of the lay off and invitation to help pack

Planned Parenthood off the rails
baffling people with their bull sh=t

Listening to the news about the Russians and Syria

Hearing about another school shooting
but wondering how many African American kids
were killed in the last month, but nobody cares.

Gosh, Depressed?
No time, got to get ready for a hurricane.

Really, all is well. Looking forward to a quiet week of retirement