As both of our children approach marriage at the same time- I ponder what to say. What did our parents say? Not much. The doubts that were expressed were worries only for a second to me. My mother went on about the five things that Father so and so told her- but did she follow those herself? I don't think so. Neither did I- but we are both still married....
What does it take to be married in this day and age? The willingness to put your friendship above all else is huge. The willingness to make a painful decision jointly- and then stick to it. The willingness to lead, follow and, sometimes, sit to the side.
Our marriage grows stronger daily here in Kansas. Being in a space that nurtures our need for green and area. I love it here. I can see growing old here.
So, I will continue to ponder what to say- but know that I can say nothing that their hearts have not heard before. Marry a friend and stay committed.