Our daughter is at home with our grandson full time. I admire their family determination to provide the best care for their child. Any other decision would put a different type of pressure on their young family that would not be easy to handle. The experience of working in the area might be better for her career- but not for their lives.
When visiting her household, there is rarely a minute to spare. There are places to go and things to do. Scheduling works around a toddler schedule- consistent in food, fun and sleep. As I say, no house is large enough for four big personalities for too long;>)
Our son works- often 14 hour days. When he gets home he is zapped. At least an hour of random computer time before the wind down begins. The weekends are non stop- but they are only two days long.
We have lots of down time here. We take over his media and lounge on the couch- lol. We might go and see the sight- but then there is traffic out there and neither of us know how to get there or home. Too much effort. We begin to think of all of the things at "home" we should be doing.
We love to visit both homes. We know our children love us. BUT
Guests, like fish, stink after five days. Both households were visited for seven days this fall. We forgot the rule. Hopefully, they will want us back. Five days next time:>)