Monday, February 23, 2015

Getting a drivers license is not for the poor or women!

I went to get my new driver's license in Delaware.
Along with the taking off of shoes for boarding a plane there is now
 federal standard for drivers license.
Most people are not affected by the changes.
They live in the same state all of their lives.
Or they choose not to change their license when they move (which is illegal).

I started my journey by looking at the website.
Easiest proof of my existence was my passport.
I have held three different types of passports in my life
Tourist, Official and Diplomatic.
All of them have expired.

What was needed was my actual birth certificate- not a photocopy.
Mine was in Kansas
and mailing it to Delaware did not seem safe.
So I called Arizona.
Yup, I could download the form (off to the library $2, no printer in Delaware),
Send it in with $35 and a stamped envelope.
The assumption that people even have checking accounts was pretty laughable.
One could pay a few dollars more and "charge it".
Three weeks later it appeared.

I showed up at the license place bright and early.
I had my $40 in hand- cash.
My number was pretty high,
but the shop is efficient and
the people are pleasant in Dover.

I had my current Kansas license, my social security card and my birth certificate.
I also had my proof that I had a house in Delaware.
Those were the things most obvious on the website.

Called up.
My heart was thumping.
Why is it that I am always nervous when encountering officials.

I handed over my "stuff".
"Where is your marriage license?"
Blink, blink.
"My marriage license? Why?"
"That is when you changed your name, correct?"
Well, I didn't have one.
"Don't forget. It cannot be a photocopy and cannot be a Church document.
It has to be the original.
And
if you have ever been divorced
you need to provide your marriage certificates
and divorce papers from each name change."
Blink,
blink.
I know I was acting like a deer in headlights.
Mostly because IF I still had our marriage license
it was in Kanas,
not Delaware.

Back on the phone with Arizona (at least I got married in my "home state")
No one quite knew where the marriage licenses were "stored".
After five or six calls
I got the Superior court of my home county.
"Yes, we can get you a copy. It is on microfiche."
(Does anyone have that technology anymore?)
It will take two weeks for finding it and a week to process it.
That will be $45.

I have to say-
the people in Arizona bureaucracy
 are just as nice as the people in Delaware.

While on the phone with this nice woman
I explained why I needed it.
She said she had gotten a huge increase in requests.
Then she paused.
"Didn't that law just come into effect in January?"
Well, not in Washington State though….
She said they would have to look into hiring more people since she also handled divorce decrees.

Three more weeks, seventy five dollars and I finally had all of the paperwork.
Not one thing had my picture or finger print on it
identifying me as the person on the paperwork.
But, it was all "perfect".

The man behind the counter said,
"Yes, this new process is crazy"
"You should have seen the flustered lady yesterday
who could not get ahold of one of her divorce decrees".
He had told her to just go get a passport.
It was cheaper and took less time.

Really?

If you are a man, this process is simple.
You just need a birth certificate and a SS card.

But women----just get a passport first!
It is "only $100" and then the license is just $40.

Gosh, how do the poor do it?
and how many women have boarded planes
to do harm?
This is really a sexist policy!

Check out the regs for yourself.
http://www.dhs.gov/secure-drivers-license-documentation



5 comments:

Tom Sightings said...

Yikes! I may never move again!

Kimberly said...

WOW! Thanks for the warning! I guess I need to get my ducks in a row for July!

Janette said...

Kimberly, you won't have a problem since you will have a passport.
Tom, it is a nightmare- especially for women.

Michael Smith said...

My wife and I recently moved down to Florida. We collected what we believed to be all the required documents to get our license (at least what was required from our previous state of West Virginia.

We handed our documents to the very sweet lady at the counter.

"You don't have any documentation showing when your maiden name was changed", she told my wife.

"This is my second marriage", my wife replied.

"Then we need a copy of your marriage license or divorce decree", the lady at the counter said.

"I explained that my wife never had the marriage license, and that the divorce decree had been lost during one of our moves".

"I can't issue a license without it" the lady replied. You will need to obtain the marriage license or divorce decree".

My wife's drivers license expires in less than two weeks, and we had never been asked for the proof of her name change from her first marriage.

I messaged my wife's ex-husband and his wife on Facebook", they are graciously mailing a copy of the divorce decree. Thank Heaven!!!

The point of this all, is that in our quest to be "safe and secure", we are giving up our rights as citizens,

The vast, vast majority of men, never have a name change, and we do not have to show proof of it.

These useless laws and regulations our written by men, and they are not encumbered by them. They simply walk in a DMV give them birth certificate, Social Security card, and proof of residency, and voila walk out with a brand new license.

My wife must wait.

My wife's advice to young women:

If you are getting married for the first time, KEEP YOUR MAIDEN NAME!!!

If you had asked me 20 years ago, I would have thought the idea of a woman keeping her maiden name was unnecessary.

TODAY I agree with my wife. Until they end these rules and regulations that discriminate against women, and DO NOTHING to keep us secure, I would also advise women TO KEEP THEIR MAIDEN NAME.

If enough women do that and men start also complaining, perhaps the laws will change.

Michael Smith said...

My wife and I recently moved down to Florida. We collected what we believed to be all the required documents to get our license (at least what was required from our previous state of West Virginia.

We handed our documents to the very sweet lady at the counter.

"You don't have any documentation showing when your maiden name was changed", she told my wife.

"This is my second marriage", my wife replied.

"Then we need a copy of your marriage license or divorce decree", the lady at the counter said.

"I explained that my wife never had the marriage license, and that the divorce decree had been lost during one of our moves".

"I can't issue a license without it" the lady replied. You will need to obtain the marriage license or divorce decree".

My wife's drivers license expires in less than two weeks, and we had never been asked for the proof of her name change from her first marriage.

I messaged my wife's ex-husband and his wife on Facebook", they are graciously mailing a copy of the divorce decree. Thank Heaven!!!

The point of this all, is that in our quest to be "safe and secure", we are giving up our rights as citizens,

The vast, vast majority of men, never have a name change, and we do not have to show proof of it.

These useless laws and regulations our written by men, and they are not encumbered by them. They simply walk in a DMV give them birth certificate, Social Security card, and proof of residency, and voila walk out with a brand new license.

My wife must wait.

My wife's advice to young women:

If you are getting married for the first time, KEEP YOUR MAIDEN NAME!!!

If you had asked me 20 years ago, I would have thought the idea of a woman keeping her maiden name was unnecessary.

TODAY I agree with my wife. Until they end these rules and regulations that discriminate against women, and DO NOTHING to keep us secure, I would also advise women TO KEEP THEIR MAIDEN NAME.

If enough women do that and men start also complaining, perhaps the laws will change.